me..as a woman

Life is weird as a woman. And I am not even going into the physical aspects here. I don't understand why always women are expected to make sacrifices and be happy about it or bear the pain inside. They say we can tolerate pain a lot more. Its not true. We are made to tolerate pain a lot more.

Today i wanna talk about the sacrifices a girl has to make in a relationship. In case of family, a girl is expected to leave her family and her identity and take up someone else's identity and be start a family. When she refuses to do so, she is labelled as a bad girl who don't fulfill her duties towards her in-laws. Tell me, is it wrong to want to keep our own identity, then start a new family with only husband. I am not sayin we wouldnt take care of our in laws. but then, if we are takin care of our in laws, then shouldnt our husbands have d same duty towards his in-laws, dat is our parents? why he is never accused of not fulfilling his duties when the girl moves in his house? I know this is how things have always been. But isnt it enough already. Isnt it time to change the system a little bit and treat women as equals? In most of the families girls are not encouraged enough to get a job because they know if she doesnt they will marry her off. Even girls don't understand that if they marry without a job she will have to be the slave of the family shes going into. She may get love, but never complete freedom.

Nowadays women work. And they get into relationships. There are some questions which i keep on asking myself and to the world over and over again. never get answers. If the guy gets a better job somewhere else and needs to move, the girl is expected to leave her job and move with her husband and then look for a new job there and start from scratch. How many instances do you know where the husband has left his job and moved to a different city for his wife and looked for a new job? Then housework.. even today men refuses to do housework. Even if his wife does as profile job as he does, she is expected to do more housework than him. If they have kids then the condition is even worse. Well, here there is a little catch though. Fathers cannot care about the children as their mothers can. Still, isnt it time that the men learn to do that? Many women give up their jobs after gettin fed up with the fight. they get tired of trying to multitask and stop trying. And we wonder why there is so less women on top.

I dont realise. Why is the mentality not changing even in this age? Why even the modern guys end up thinking in the same lines? I dont understand. Am i asking for too much? Why cant I find a single guy who thinks like me? Nowadays i say i wont get married. Because i know, i cant find anyone who will give me these things and will make me happy. But its not about me. its for all the women in the world who is striving to fight their way up. Why cant men see through their view sometimes..atleast try? Instead of labelling girls like me who talks and complains about this matters as "feminists" ? I am sure there are plenty of good guys out there who are capable of understanding why exactly i am complaining and why i am saying we dont get equality. They just dont let themselves understand. I think it is because they are afraid they will be labelled as their girlfriends or wifes puppy dog and that will hurt their male ego. Why can for once guys forget their ego and also ignore what the society is saying and think for themselves? I am sure they will undertand then.