Durga puja is finally here. I wait for it the whole year round coz these are the days of the year when i get to have the most fun. But this time, i dunno why, i am not very excited about the puja. Guess i have changed. Pandal hopping is not attracting me much anymore. The very thought of pushing through the maddening crowd is driving me nuts!! If i am gonna go out, that is only to have a quality time with friends. Otherwise, this puja, i am planning to stay at home and do what i do the best.. eat and sleep!! :D Oh and by the way, this time there are possibilities of blasts in kolkata during durga puja as well so i think that is a very good excuse to stay at home far from people fighting their way in the pandals..

my first post in blogspot..

I was posting in blog.com but I was having a bit of trouble. So decided to switch to blogspot. Also copied pasted my blogs from there. Hope you will like it. :)

loving you..

Aditi could feel the warm sunshine on her face. She opened her eyes slowly, but did not feel like getting up. Turning the other side she saw Rahul cuddled under covers, still sleeping like a baby. "He looks so sweet and child-like when he is sleeping, no wonder i love him so much",thought Aditi. She kissed softly on his forhead and whispered into his ears, “ Wakey-wakey now, sleepyhead”. “You think I am sleeping huh??”, said Rahul as he suddenly opened his eyes and wrapped arms around Aditi and started showering kisses all over her face. “Hmm..naughty!!”, Aditi said though she knew she was melting in Rahul’s warm and loving embrace.

After coochie-cooing on bed for sometime, they finally got up. It was a weekend, so holiday for Aditi and Rahul who were both software professionals in a reputed IT firm. Rahul and Aditi had been dating for five years now, starting from college days and for the past one year they had been living together. Rahul is thinking about popping the question to Aditi for sometime now but he knows Aditi is very scared of marriage. She is afraid she will hinder her free spirit and career. And she is also against the institution of leaving her parents and living with the guys parents. She thinks its demeaning to women. Sometimes to pull her leg Rahul will call her “ my little feminist” and see her going red in anger. “I am a humanist, not a feminist”, she will declare proudly.

Rahul really wants to marry her and start a family. He has always been a romantic person and dreamt about a fairy tale ending to his long relationship with this one woman of her life. But Aditi is just too stubborn about her ideals sometimes. Today he decided enough is enough. He cant take this live-in relationship anymore. He will ask for her hand today and tell her how much he wants her to be a part of his life. If she still refuses, he will have no other option but to move on. His family wants him to get married as soon as possible but the only girl he loves doesn’t want to marry at all. It also hurts him to go against his family and not get married because after all they are the persons who bought him up with love and care. He don’t want to hurt them either.

Aditi knows how much Rahul wants to marry her. But she is always afraid what if like many other guys he also changes after marriage and expect her to cook and clean for him? What if getting married and having children becomes a hindrance to her career? She wants to start a family too. Rahul is the only person she can ever marry if she does get married. She loves him so much. But she is just too afraid. What if her in-laws don’t accept her free spirit? She would not give up her ideals at any cost. She has tolerated enough crap from the whole world. She wont do that anymore. But she wants him so bad. She wants to spend her life with him. Its so confusing for her sometimes.

Saturday is a cleaning day for Rahul and Aditi. After a whole day of working hard to clean up their messy house, in the evening, both sat on the couch really tired. “I am in no mood to cook today”, declared Aditi with a sigh. “Neither am I, lets order Chinese and rent watch movie together on the couch and spent a romantic evening, what say??”, suggested Rahul with a mischievious twinkle in his eyes. Aditi agreed with a smile. After making some phone call and ordering food they settled on the couch to watch the movie they rented a few days back but never watched.

They snuggled into each others arms as the movie started. It was a romantic movie and towards the end of it when the guy was proposing the girl, Rahul decided to make his move. He pulled Aditi closer and kissed her saying,”I dunno how to say such romantic lines as the guy in the movie but I really really want to spent my life with you, Aditi. The things that you are so scared of may not happen also, you know. Atleast give me a chance to show you that I will never hurt your ideals but I will love for what you are for forever and always. I am sure you wont regret it.” He looked at Aditi’s face. It was expressionless and she was completely silent. He was breathless. If she says no today he has decided to leave her and he knows it wont be easy. But he has got no other choice. After a few seconds, two tears rolled down Aditi’s cheek. “I love you and want you so much, Rahul. I want to spend my life with you. You bet I do. Never let me complain,ok? I was stupid so I was even afraid to give you a chance. I am sorry.” and Aditi hid her face in Rahul’s chest. “You are stupidly cute sometimes, you know that?”,Rahul lifted her face and they kissed like they have never kissed before.

Suddenly the doorbell rang. They got startled. Rahul got up and opened the door.It was their Chinese food delivery. He bought it back to Aditi. Aditi said,”Now my sweet caring to-be hubby,I want to eat on bed tonight” and gave a naughty wink. “Oh, you bet you do”,said Rahul with a grin and swung her up in arms and carried her and the food off towards bedroom.

me..as a woman

Life is weird as a woman. And I am not even going into the physical aspects here. I don't understand why always women are expected to make sacrifices and be happy about it or bear the pain inside. They say we can tolerate pain a lot more. Its not true. We are made to tolerate pain a lot more.

Today i wanna talk about the sacrifices a girl has to make in a relationship. In case of family, a girl is expected to leave her family and her identity and take up someone else's identity and be start a family. When she refuses to do so, she is labelled as a bad girl who don't fulfill her duties towards her in-laws. Tell me, is it wrong to want to keep our own identity, then start a new family with only husband. I am not sayin we wouldnt take care of our in laws. but then, if we are takin care of our in laws, then shouldnt our husbands have d same duty towards his in-laws, dat is our parents? why he is never accused of not fulfilling his duties when the girl moves in his house? I know this is how things have always been. But isnt it enough already. Isnt it time to change the system a little bit and treat women as equals? In most of the families girls are not encouraged enough to get a job because they know if she doesnt they will marry her off. Even girls don't understand that if they marry without a job she will have to be the slave of the family shes going into. She may get love, but never complete freedom.

Nowadays women work. And they get into relationships. There are some questions which i keep on asking myself and to the world over and over again. never get answers. If the guy gets a better job somewhere else and needs to move, the girl is expected to leave her job and move with her husband and then look for a new job there and start from scratch. How many instances do you know where the husband has left his job and moved to a different city for his wife and looked for a new job? Then housework.. even today men refuses to do housework. Even if his wife does as profile job as he does, she is expected to do more housework than him. If they have kids then the condition is even worse. Well, here there is a little catch though. Fathers cannot care about the children as their mothers can. Still, isnt it time that the men learn to do that? Many women give up their jobs after gettin fed up with the fight. they get tired of trying to multitask and stop trying. And we wonder why there is so less women on top.

I dont realise. Why is the mentality not changing even in this age? Why even the modern guys end up thinking in the same lines? I dont understand. Am i asking for too much? Why cant I find a single guy who thinks like me? Nowadays i say i wont get married. Because i know, i cant find anyone who will give me these things and will make me happy. But its not about me. its for all the women in the world who is striving to fight their way up. Why cant men see through their view sometimes..atleast try? Instead of labelling girls like me who talks and complains about this matters as "feminists" ? I am sure there are plenty of good guys out there who are capable of understanding why exactly i am complaining and why i am saying we dont get equality. They just dont let themselves understand. I think it is because they are afraid they will be labelled as their girlfriends or wifes puppy dog and that will hurt their male ego. Why can for once guys forget their ego and also ignore what the society is saying and think for themselves? I am sure they will undertand then.